Noodles and Beef

November 29th, 2017 Week 48 of 52

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Thanksgiving food prep war zone

I’m doing three Thanksgivings this week. Here’s how that goes:

  • After procuring 60lbs of turkey, I got to work breaking down the birds into breasts, bones, and dark meats.
  • Dark meats were seasoned and left to air dry in the refrigerator.
  • Breasts were seasoned, then glued together into cylinders, vacuum packed, ready to drop into the sous vide machine for day-of cooking.
  • Bones were boiled with mirepoix and aromatics for stock.

Making stock always seems so wasteful. Instead of discarding the stock meat and vegetables, I used them to make turkey tamales for snacks.  Pups loved them 😀

Our first guests arrive Monday, with Friends’giving on Tuesday.  Then I’ve got family visiting for Thursday Thanksgiving morning.  I close the week with Tanks’giving.


Friend's giving

“We as gay people get to choose our family and the people we’re around. I am your family. We are a family here.”


Kicked off Thanksgiving with a couple of our closest friends, John and Jacob. I toasted the dinner with one of my favourite RuPaul quotes.

Dinner was a throwback to my Mexican Thanksgiving. I really wanted to show off with the turkey mole.  Everything went pretty good…I was just so happy to see our friends again.

We met John and Jacob so surreptitiously.  I had been exchanging emails with John and he asked to meet up while they were in town.  I was really overcome by how sincere and wonderful they were.  Years later, they’re two of my closest friends.

So when John asked me to help him plan a surprise proposal for his partner, I was eager to help.

He’d been going back and forth on doing a flash mob, something with the Space Needle, and an intimate dinner with their friends.  Space Needle was under construction this month, so that was out…and weather wasn’t really cooperating for a flash mob…so I helped John find a nice, intimate restaurant.

We spent the evening talking about their growing relationship over the years, punctuated by molecular gastronomy cuisine and champagne. As dessert came around, John got on his knee, the restaurant (mostly empty at this point) was silent, and I got share in my friends’ proposal.

It was really beautiful. I’m a teary mess just remembering the moment.

The somellier brought out a fantastic bottle of ice wine, and I toasted the newly engaged couple with a memory from when I first met them:

Me: “When I first met you, Jacob, you thanked me for something you thought you’d never find again. Do you remember what you said?”
Jacob: “I thought I’d never find love.”

The Maître D’ brought out personalized menus for our meal. “Congratulations, John and Jacob” headlining the heavy cardstock.

Family Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving with my visiting family was actually delightful. But maybe I should do the planning through family members besides dad. One last Thanksgiving dad watch:

Dad: “I predict it’s going to get really expensive up here soon. You should buy a house.”
Me: “Are you offering to help me buy a house?”
Dad: “No.”
Me: “Then I’ll get a house when I’m financially able to do so.”

And Tanks'giving

The last Thanksgiving of the week: tanks’giving.

Tank came over after my dad left for some turkey and pork belly, later I went to his place for mussels. Tank’s apartment is very cute.  I’m happy he’s doing well.

This has probably been the best week with tank since we restarted therapy.  I’m still a long ways off from being able to trust him fully, but I feel we are making progress.  Each week a little better than the last.  Its gotten good enough that I’ve been inviting him to hang out with my pups and I for brief intervals.  (I still get anxious when I spend too much time with tank).

On a side note, his bulk is going very well. I’ve missed being able to control his diet and encourage him in this way…although, I’m doing it with a bit of trepidation.  Still have nagging doubt about his motives.

Things I'm thankful for

This is me last year getting my hole tattooed for my pe’a.

What a year it’s been.  I have a lot to be thankful for.

  • My health is not the best, but I’m not dead, and I can do things to fix my health, so I’m thankful for that.
  • I’m tremendously thankful for being able to work in an industry that lets me be my authentic self.
  • I’m thankful for my chosen family. They are my true family, and I am so lucky to have them. My pups have been there for me when I’ve needed them most…and I have needed them a lot this year.

Happy thanksgiving, everyone~

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