Noodles and Beef

pannacottaprincess asks:
tbh you're like a role model to me, your relationships are beautiful and loving, you're talented and use your creativity to help people and you're also really funny. I realize this is a curated blog of your life and there's always more to people behind social media, but your blog is inspiring and your family makes me smile. So thanks for sharing it with all of us!

Thank you.

I’m always so humbled that my silly journal has been a positive force for people who find it.

My blog manifesto has always been to treat it like a journal; to write about my life as openly as possible so that I can better appreciate it.  Something I’ve been doing for over 13-years since I read about it in Psychology Today.

Now that I have 3+ million readers a year, I have to curate a little.  Some of the less savory parts of my life are subject to ridicule and seemingly unfair scrutiny because I have such a large audience.

It varies though…my recent post about my problems with love was met (surprisingly) with lots of support.

thegrandshippirate:

That’s a good point, but I mean (and this isn’t directed at you, Nace)
“Whether you agree or disagree with him or what he does”? What he does: Raises awareness for body dysphoria, and HIV. Educates people on the realities of the BDSM community. Has a happy, healthy relationship with three men, a relationship that he repeatedly has stated, in which the goal is to help them be happy, healthy, and better off from where they started, and he goes about it in a way they allow it, and follows a contract that they explicitly state what they are and aren’t okay with. Does a charity calendar every year. Responds kindly to the hundreds of messages that say the same thing “You’re hot, I adore you” (which I’m sure, gets inappropriate at times, and obnoxious at others.)

Dylan is a kind hearted person, who has been through a lot, and isn’t afraid to use his experiences to help people learn.

“I hate how he’s always taking selfies! Its bragging!”…. Or, he’s providing us a glimpse at how happy he is, and showing his love and appreciation for the people in his life?

Look at these handsome sane men being so nice to me. Thank you <3

nithela asks:
I just wanted to pop in and say that thanks to you, I'm having a much easier time embracing my own body. I've always been broad-shouldered and build muscle easily, which I LOVE... and natural bulk, which the world tells me to get rid of since I'm a ciswoman. It resulted in an unspecified eating disorder (which I've recently defeated after 15 years!). Looking at your blog, especially your photos, has inspired me to keep building and not give a damn about what others think. So, thank you again!

Well, you sound beautiful to me.  Keep it up :)

I received a really wonderful message today.  I’m excited to respond but still collecting my thoughts.

It is so incredibly humbling to read messages like this.  I’m just keeping a diligent journal and posting my silly projects, yet its connected me with so many wonderful people.  It was never the goal of this blog, but I love that I can be an escape, inspiration, or even entertainment for anyone that needs it.

Now I want to do more meaningful projects…hmm.

Your hair looks great today.

Thank you for reading. I’m so glad my little blog has had a positive effect for you.

d-caster96-blog asks:
Hi, I'm Davis. I have been in love with your blog forever although I just worked up the courage to follow and message you. I just want to express to you how much your blog gives me hope. Hope that if you find those who love you, for you, you can be completely happy. I've been sad for a while but I have turned a new page and I'm starting new. Your blog makes my sad days happy and your pups are amazing. Please don't ever stop with your blog because it brings me joy. Thanks, Davis

Thank you, I’m so glad you like my blog :)

I will blog till the day I die (and sometime after that thanks to my dead-man’s switch).  

Thanks for the message, @cyphanthera.  I’m so happy my doodles had such a positive impact on your life.

I really need to get back into drawing :|

I have about 3,000 messages in my inbox, many wonderful notes like these.

I’m sorry if I haven’t responded to your message yet.  I am so happy y'all like my blog and that it is a positive influence on your life.  Thats more than I ever expected my silly journal to be.

Thank you~

I have about 3,000 messages in my inbox, many wonderful notes like these.

I’m sorry if I haven’t responded to your message yet.  I am so happy y’all like my blog and that it is a positive influence on your life.  Thats more than I ever expected my silly journal to be.

Thank you~

Anonymous asks:
You're hanging around some disgusting company. To each his own. You don't need to be around desperation to be the man you want to be. Yes I'm hating. Mainly because you look and seem perfect just the way you are. Have fun in PTown kiddo!

pup-rusty:

Im sorry you think that but do you actually know the company that I’m keeping? Because I’m sure you don’t. On the other hand I’ve know Dylan for over ten years long before he ever was “@Noodlesandbeef” so you can take your options and shove em.
Dylan is one of the most caring and compassionate people I know. He does whatever he can for his friends. While he may get a bad rap because of the blog and what people think they know about him. The people who actually know him, know the kind of person he is.
And all of the changes I’ve made over the last year have been for me and only me. That’s the reason I’ve been able to stay on track.

So you have an irrational hate of Noodles and Beef.  Good for you.  Instead of being a hateful person, use that energy in a productive way.

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Anonymous asks:
You're hanging around some disgusting company. To each his own. You don't need to be around desperation to be the man you want to be. Yes I'm hating. Mainly because you look and seem perfect just the way you are. Have fun in PTown kiddo!

ginger-beef:

Im sorry you think that but do you actually know the company that I’m keeping? Because I’m sure you don’t. On the other hand I’ve know Dylan for over ten years long before he ever was “@Noodlesandbeef” so you can take your options and shove em.
Dylan is one of the most caring and compassionate people I know. He does whatever he can for his friends. While he may get a bad rap because of the blog and what people think they know about him. The people who actually know him, know the kind of person he is.
And all of the changes I’ve made over the last year have been for me and only me. That’s the reason I’ve been able to stay on track.

So you have an irrational hate of Noodles and Beef.  Good for you.  Instead of being a hateful person, use that energy in a productive way.

image

Introducing the “I HATE NOODLES AND BEEF” t-shirt.  For less than the cost of a planter’s punch, you can proudly show the world you’re a hateful bitch and do good at the same time.

100% of gross proceeds from sales of this shirt will be donated to the AIDS Emergency Fund.

So if you’re not a completely horrible person, put that hate to good use.  

Buy now!

Email from a reader

Remember that sudden ambush of hate mail and those people like this suddenly accusing me of being everything wrong with the gay community?  And instead of ignoring it I made a survey for the haters to articulate what was wrong…except nobody could come up with anything?

I’ve received literally hundreds of positive, supportive comments, messages, and several public posts by friends and folks I don’t know.  I’m surrounded by so much positive energy and love, the timing of which has made for an incredible birthday.

Thank you, everyone.

I received this incredibly thoughtful email that possibly explains the motivation behind these cowardly attacks.  TL:DR, they’re just jealous…but, this is the first time someone has been able to give me a solution to dealing with jealousy: compassion.

Highly recommended read:

hey Dylan -

You don’t know me but I’ve been reading your blog for a while and saw you had posted a survey the other day asking for feedback from the trolls. It looks like I’ve missed the window for that? And I’m not a troll but was walking the dog this morning and thinking about how I’d respond, and here it is.  Feel free to not read further if you’re done with this issue.
I agree it seems like the hateful comments from your trolls are juvenile and baseless. But I also know that there’s a sentiment in them that I sometimes sort of agree with? and other guys I know who have come across you online have had a vaguely similar response.
So let’s say that you’re relatively confident, self-assured, with enough sense of personal boundaries that you can display your body and make fun of yourself publicly, and not wracked with shame about your body or sexuality which enables you to share parts of your life and personality openly.  You’re articulate and smart. Those are all solid, laudable qualities.
But to someone who is maybe: insecure, painfully self-conscious, or holding onto shame….those same qualities might allow them to read you as vain, annoyingly over-confident, and narcissistic.  The honesty of your struggles with your bdd and panic attacks - which to some of us help humanize you - could to others read in the context of your exhibitionist photos and fabulous SF corporate job/life as fishing for validation and sympathy.
It seems like you have some sense of this from the response to your vacation pics where people are like: how the hell do you afford this lifestyle?  Which you’ve answered honestly and publicly (and I’ve started using your strategy to plan and save more consistently for big trips - thanks btw) but you can see the jealousy? covetousness? it elicits in people.  I suspect the hate mail is from a similar source.
And so I guess: don’t let it eat away at you, but also try to maintain a sense of compassion for them.
One of the things that I’ve grown to like about reading you is that you just put yourself out there. You don’t know where things are going or what’s happening next. You’re in the process and your readers are along for the ride. I’ve enjoyed watching you get/lose boyfriends and figure yourself out better and grow up a bit into the man you’re becoming.
that’s all I’ve got - hope it’s helped - good luck with the pups
Thank you for the wonderful email.  It should be noted that I left my “fabulous SF corporate job” to work for a non-profit.  I’m hoping my creative direction will help with immigration reform in this country…its much more fulfilling than optimizing a web app for profit.
I will take your advice to heart, thank you.