When you and your pups have sex, how does it go? Meaning is it everyone or do you at with them individually. I don't want to piss you off, I'm just curious
Totally valid question as the mechanics of group sex are very complicated, thank you for asking.
Here are my favourite positions with names I’ve made up:
A pup on each nipple and one on my cock. Easy, hands free, very enjoyable. (pictured here)
- THE LINE UP
Each pup presents their rump and I just go down one at a time till they’re each filled up. (pictured here)
Lil pup, Alpha, and I go for a hike while big pup plays video games at home. (pictured here)
Message from Marcus B:
hi, I discovered your blog a few weeks ago and completely smitten, not sure whether i prefer the hunky pups or the amazing food you guys eat! Anyway, I was reading your post on how to handle pups that were larger than you
and wondered whether you had any other tips, I’m a totally submissive cub but the only problem I have is being 6’2 and built really naturally big, as in shoulders that fill a doorway and this really intimidates a lot of doms, do you have any suggestions for anything that I could do or ways a top could handle me better? Id really appreciate it and keep up the awesome work with this blog!
My last post was all about how a Dom can get a bigger partner to submit, but it required previous interaction and trust. Let’s look at it from the big sub’s perspective:
How can a bigger sub attract the attention of a Dom?
Even after dominating my alpha pup, he will stand up to his full 6’2” height and I can’t help but feel intimidated. The issue is social programming: bigger guys are seen as more Dominant because of their relative size difference with everyone shorter.
An experienced Dom can pick up on your submissive cues regardless of size or other physical markers of dominance. But, you can help make this easier by expressing your submissive side more obviously:
Dress the part
I’m not saying you should go out dressed like a sexy kitten maid, but there are accessories that can help indicate your submissive role. Harnesses, collars (no lock), bondage inspired jewelry, sometimes even the right hankey can flag your desired role.
These suggestions won’t work for everyone. Ultimately, you should wear something that resonates with you. If you feel sexy in a jockstrap, wear it.
Know your submissive cues
Submissive cues aren’t universal, but there are certain behaviours that signal to me someone is more submissively inclined. Avoiding eye contact, keeping head down, asking for permission, being overly courteous, polite, respectful, and addressing me as “Sir” are hard to miss signs.
Reflect on your own submissive dialog and speak that…if you feel being submissive means carrying someone’s bag or bringing them a drink, do that. It’ll help attract a Dom who is compatible with your needs.
HELP!! Hey Dylan I need your help, i really really REALLY want to buy a camera but I don't want to spend so much. Do you know of a good affordable camera that takes good pictures but won't make my bank account die of starvation?
Oh boy, something I’m good at: buying cameras.
I’m a firm believer that the best camera is the one you have on you, so my gear usually favours portability over performance.
Noodles and Beef’s camera guide
My first camera was a Panasonic Lumix DMC-TZ5. Bought it from Costco at the recommendation of wooferstl when I was starting my 365 project. Its a great introductory camera with excellent auto controls and a small, portable size that makes shooting easy.
See my Lumix photos here or Buy it here.
My first DSLR (bigger sensor, better photos, more manual control) camera was a Olympus E-PL1. It was horrible. I spent a lot of time after returning it researching DSLR cameras before settling on the SONY NEX-5. Its been my camera of choice for the last four years. The photo quality is amazing and being able to edit RAW photos really expanded my hobby.
See my NEX-5 photos here or Buy it here ~$400 (used for $200).
$$$MONEY IS NO OBJECT
After years of slowly trading up, I’ve finally got myself a full frame camera, the SONY A7R. I’ve only had mine for a couple days, but am loving using such an advanced camera.
See my A7R photos here or buy it here ~$2,200
You seem to watch what you and your pups eat. Is there anything junk food/fast food that each of you love and would consider a weakness?
Oh yeah, we all have our weaknesses.
- Me: guava juice, sorbet, rice
- Big pup: flavoured water, anything he’s not allowed to have
- Lil pup: actually very good with his diet, but has a weakness for eating out instead of eating what we cook.
- Alpha pup: Pasta, anything sweet.
How does flagging work exactly? they certainly made for cool lookin pictures, but what's the set-up like?
- A video of flagging outdoors (and indoors under blacklight)
- A brief history on the origin of flagging
- Where do you get flags?
- How to make your own flags
So, how does flagging work?
Flags are constructed as a pair of mirrored/identical flags with weights sewn along one edge (A to B) and wrapping around one corner (B). When you flag, you’re basically throwing the weighted corner (B) by the point you grab (A). Based on the type of movements you want to create (tight poi movements VS large flag motions), your hands travel closer or further from the weighted corner (B).
I must have missed it, but is Chuck/Alpha pup now officially part of your pup troupe?
Yes, officially collared July 11th, 2014. Alpha is on a one-year contract to evaluate his service and see if this style of relationship is beneficial for him and I.
Hey there I saw some of your Folsom photos and if you don't mind me asking , i really wanna go but is it worth it in your opinion to drive from San Diego to San Francisco the day before for the event and just curious if its 18+ or 21+ or no age limit because i am 20 thank you! --alex4569
Folsom Street Fair is an 18+ event. Learn all about it here.
IMHO, you need to spend a weekend to truly appreciate Folsom, and be 21+ because most parties are for the legal-drinking crowd.
How do you render Chuck pub helpless if I may ask? Just for future encounters with alpha pubs like him.
Alpha pup Chuck is nearly twice my size: he’s a head taller than me, nearly 300lbs, and lifts more than I do in every workout. His physically dominant presence is accentuated by his deep, authoritative voice and an intimidatingly sharp mind. He’s the alpha in the office, the Anna Wintour of his industry, and when not working he travels with an entourage of beefy asian guys.
How do you render such a dominant man into a helpless pup?
Trustr and a little physical force.
I picked up on Chuck’s submissive side the night we first met, but it was clear he was very guarded. A lifetime of social conditioning forcing him into a dominant role because of his size gave him a lot of submissive shame; he didn’t feel it was alright to submit or give up control as a man.
As our friendship grew and trust was earned, I learned his submissive triggers were based around making him (a very dominant person) feel powerless. It started as gently as pulling him towards me by his backpack straps. He lost his balance and fell into my arms, the sudden disorientation snapped him into his submissive headspace.
Because of his size, I have to resort to the principles of kuzushi, or “breaking balance,” to use his size against him and make him powerless. From standing, I can tug him off balance and slam him into a nearby wall or into the ground. From there I can easily pin him with just my body weight. He’s completely helpless and powerless in two seconds. And he loves it.
Next time you encounter an alpha type pup or sub, pay attention to their submissive cues. Do they respond to you being more aggressive? Then maybe you need to pin them down and tie them up.
Ok this may sound silly but I'm just trying to understand your latest question response. You say that your pups get bigger and get piercing body modifications that way you feel like they are yours, but what do you do to make them feel like they are yours as well? Does each pup have their own I guess you can say "piece" of you that varies from pup to pup?
Big pup getting my brand tattooed on his lower back, read his post about it here.
My pups push themselves bigger, get pierced, and tattooed to feel like they’re mine, not the other way around. These changes and modifications are symbolic of our relationship, that my pups are mine and they must earn that privilege every day.
They always aspire to be and give more for their Master. My pups are loyal to a flaw and unrelenting in their desire to make me happy…thats how I know they’re mine.
The only “piece” that varies from pup to pup is how I engage them.
Each pup has different triggers and needs. I can put big pup in subspace with just eye contact, but Chuck needs me to render him helpless before he breaks.
Despite your three pups being incredibly sexy I can't help but notice all three have nipple barbells. Is this something you encouraged as their Master?
Pierced nipples is just one of the body mods I encourage my pups to get.
Other body mods include gauged ears, septum (bull ring), labret, PA, and (the ultimate) my brand tattooed on the lower back.
I also push my pups to grow bigger.
My pups don’t recognize themselves before they met me. They’re pierced, inked, bigger, collared…they’re mine and they have the marks to show it.
Is your life as perfect as you make it out to be?
Its all in the eyes of the beholder, anon. I think my life is pretty awesome, but its not without negative parts:
Again, its all in the eyes of the beholder. I’m aware of the things in my life that aren’t “perfect” and am actively working to make them better so I can be a better person.
But what is “perfect” without some struggle? I couldn’t appreciate the good parts of my life if it weren’t for the bad ones.
@lessdanthree replied to your post: Venue has been secured for the wedding…
ugh please have a good lighting designer that can use those VLs for more than flash n trash even if it is for the reception…
Only the best for my wedding.
I have the incredible privilege to have William Brown (pictured above) my all-time favourite lighting/producer working on my wedding. I’ve been a fan of his work for years.
Lighting designers are the unspoken hero of parties. We get so blinded by headline DJs and performers, but Will’s work outshines everything. I vividly remember being captivated by his lasers last pride; the lights made the party for me.
He’s a consummate professional…my brief conversations with him have been very inspiring. His enthusiasm is contagious and I can’t wait to collaborate.
sometimes just checking out your blog puts me in sub-space. --Deputy MJC
I am very silly in person, you would not get the same reaction if you saw me offline. Fair warning.
Love your blog man. I think it is amazing that you're giving a community that may not have any awareness into sub/dom relationships, such a poignant insight, and are so open. My question, will you ever take us deeper into the sexual aspect of your sub/dom relationship? There is such care involved between you and your pups. I would love an insight into how that evolves during the sexual aspect while you retain your dominance.
Thank you! So glad you like my blog :D
BDSM is a challenging subject for the uninitiated, and a normal scene might look abusive if you don’t know what’s going on. We tried writing about it in the past, but it attracted some negative attention from people unfamiliar with how a scene works.
Furthermore, I think the romantic intimacy of “sex” is something sacred between my pups and I.
For those reasons, I don’t publically write about the sexual aspect of our relationship. I might post vague photos, but writing is probably not going to happen maybe.
Is lil pup not wearing a collar in that skype call?!? What happened!?!
He was having an allergic reaction so I’ve removed it until we find a material that doesn’t burn his skin.
Poor lil pup. :(