This is in response to my “Rules to Live By” post a few days ago.
I didn’t think I would have to explain it, but you people on tumblr take things way too seriously.
These rules are being taken out of context and you all are casting judgement without fully understanding our relationship. I know these rules might seem a little bit over the top or excessive, but our relationship is not typical: I’m part of a Dom/sub relationship.
Both parties joined of our own free will—myself included—knowing that it had rules and responsibilities that had to be followed. Our rules and responsibilities were created together. We discussed possible issues, analyzed what could go wrong, and took into consideration the needs of both parties.
While the rules I posted might seem too overzealous or rigid, in practice it is quite the contrary. I have never been a very outgoing person but Master has pushed me to seek out my friends and family more, to go out and have fun and have a good time with them.
Master has made it his duty to know my needs and wants in order to make me happy. He obsesses over it. He knows me better than I know myself, and often anticipates my desires before I can even articulate them.
I’ve had trouble finding a hobby or passion project to fill my free time (the boredom gets me in trouble), and Master has been silently encouraging me towards activities for the past couple months. I didn’t even realize his thoughtfulness; he signed us up for couple’s cooking classes and a DJ class. Both things I love that would make enriching passion projects.
I can’t think of a day when he puts his needs before mine, he is always looking for ways to make me happy. And I can honestly say that I have never been happier in my life than I am now with Master (or Dylan, if you want to use his name).
It is very easy for people to pass judgement on the unknown. Unfortunately, that is how the Internet works and people are very quick to judge without taking into consideration more than skin deep.
I know we have decided to live our relationship in a very public and honest way. We knew it might gather criticisms from people and yet we decided to go on ahead and broadcast our lives like this. Yet, people don’t bother in gathering the whole piece of the story and put their give cents without thinking deeper and harder.
The rules of our relationship are a living document. We review them weekly (Master calls this our relationship audit) to ensure the Dom/sub dynamic is healthy and everyone is happy. We’ve removed things, added new rules, and evolved the social contracted between us as needed.
People unfamiliar with Dom/sub relationships might think that he is taking advantage of me, that I am weak and he is just trying to control me for gains, or that I’m stupid for giving up such control out of love. You couldn’t be more wrong. I have two Bachelors Degrees, a Masters Degree, and Postgrad from Universities around the world, I speak 4 languages and have visited every continent, and I’m a successful entrepreneur with a thriving business. I know exactly what I’m getting into.
I will continue to live my life how I want. It’s my decision to live for my Master. I know that I love him like I have never loved anyone before. I get butterflies every single time I see him. He brings a smile to my face by just being next to me. He makes me the happiest guy in the universe and I couldn’t be luckier than to have him and spend the rest if my days with him.
So please, let me live my life and you can continue to live yours. Live and let live.
Thank you for writing this, pup.
There’s been a lot of confusion and misinterpretation of pup’s rules post. Some folks called me a tool, others said our relationship isn’t healthy, and while nobody is perfect, they said these things without fully understanding the terms of our relationship.
Thank you, pup, for clearing this up. I’m still writing my post. I kinda got distracted talking about feminism. But it will be up soon.