With all due respect, you're really hot and people seem to tell you that on your blog all the time. How could you still be insecure about your body? I could see if people were really cruel to you all the time, then I would understand, but it seems that all of the comments on here are resoundingly positive (sorry if I sound like a dumb jerk). By the way, I'm in the closet and I'm thinking about coming out. I know that I don't know you but your life seems full and content from this side of the screen so I was hoping you or your boyfriend could give me some advice seeing as how you're both out. And do you think living in San Francisco helps. I live in the Midwest and I've always thought that it would help me feel more comfortable if I lived in a more liberal area with a higher gay population.
Anonymous
It’s common that folks with BDD are also (paradoxically) exhibitionists. As Wikipedia and my therapist explained it, this is a form of validation. Folks with BDD are extremely insecure and are always seeking outside input to reassure themselves on whatever their perceived deficit is.
This is certainly true for me.
If it’s safe for you, I highly recommend coming out.
If it’s not safe (homophobic parents, anti-gay county, etc), then maybe go somewhere that you’re appreciated. Like, any state that has legalized Gay Marriage. There are a couple of them.
